NEW MUSIC: "Bottoms Up" - Trey Songz featuring Nicki Minaj

Okay I'm sure most of you heard Trey Songz new single "Bottoms Up" featuring Nicki Minaj. Some people are loving it...others..not so much. I'm kinda inbetween. I am definitely a Trey Songz fan. Will be spending my birthday at his concert and all, however..I don't think this should have been a first single. It just doesn't match the quality of music that I've come to expect from Trey. But being the supporter that I am I have to post it and let you guys judge for yourself.

I will say this about the track...must much much respect to Nicki Minaj because she FLAMES this track! I love her verse on it! I don't care who hates on this woman, she is hot!

Check out Trey on tour with Monica for the "Passion, Pain & Pleasure" tour and be sure to get the new album on September 14th!

Lyrics To Relate To...

  

I've been listening to Vivian Green's "Beautiful" album a lot lately. I've actually been listening to all of her music lately but today I was listening to these song and it kinda made me think about a few different situations. Situations dealing with myself and situations dealing with friends of mine...check it out and tell me if you can relate! 

The Things People Will Deal With For Love?

I've been single for what seems like forever and someday's I'm okay with that and other days, not so much. However, recently many of my friends have entered new relationships or are rekindling old ones and I've noticed the same issues with ALL of them! Each and every single one of them is dealing with ridiculous amounts of bullshit to maintain these relationships. Why?! Why are you dealing with this man treating you like hell? Why are you dealing with this man talking to you like he runs you? For what?! Is your relationship really worth your dignity? Is your relationship really worth you sacrificing the person that you are?

I just don't get it. And some of them have said to me "well you don't understand cause you're single"..you're right!! I don't understand and that is the reason I am single because I will NEVER deal with that mess! I've done it before...at this phase in my life I can't tolerate anyone else's mess regardless of whether I love you or not. If I don't feel like I'm being treated in a way that is beneficial to me or is equating what I'm giving, it's a wrap! I'm done with the situation and there is absolutely no looking back. 

For instance, I recently severed all ties with an ex who I'd been dealing with for about 5 years. We played the friends role, then more recently we acted like we might get back together..all the nonsense. Then one day he put me in a really uncomfortable position that made me ask myself the same questions I've been asking my friends. Are you really about to continue to deal with this mans ridiculousness? Hell no!! So with that being said, I wished him the best and made it clear that our presence in each others lives would no longer be. 

As I said, I'm just at a point in my life where I'm focusing on myself and dealing with other peoples negativity and unnecessary baggage isn't something I need. And now people are asking me if I miss him...if I'm sad...If we'll ever be friends again. No I don't miss him. No I'm not sad. I'm fine! I hope he can understand where I'm coming from and accept that as is. Who knows what will happen in the future, if we're meant to be a part of each others lives we will be. But right now, that's not an option as far as I'm concerned. 

But you know what, now that I've just said that I think about another situation I'm in right now. I was dealing with this guy Anthony a while back and I was kinda a asshole to him. I think I gave him the same bullshit I've seen my friends dealing with. The unneccsary drama and all that. I was really messed up about a relationship I had just gotten out of and I took it out on him. So obviously he decided he didn't wanna deal with the mess anymore and we stopped dealing with each other. He started dating someone else and I then realized just how bad I messed up. (don't know what you got until it's gone right?) I started seeing how seemingly happy they were (twitter is the devil) and realized that could have been us. Anyway they broke up and I tried to kinda get back in the picture wit him and to be quite frank..he wasn't having it. LOL. I was hurting over it because my feelings for him are genuine so I'm still hurt about it but just like my ex had to accept that I couldnt  deal with his stuff, I guess I gotta accept that Anthony is in a place in his life where he doesnt feel like he can or wants to deal with mine. **tears** 

But the point is, everyone has their boundaries and limits...people will deal with alot when it comes to love but you gotta be careful with that because there's gonna be and NEEDS to be a point when you realize you gotta do what you gotta do for YOU. And you'll either end up losing something that could have been PERFECT such as my situation with Anthony or you'll end up losing yourself because you dealt with entirely TOO much! There has to be a BALANCE!!!!!!!! Think about it!

Will He Ever Be Just A Friend?

Alright, I know I'm trippin lately with these sporadic ass posts. I'm sorry guys! My life has been unbelievably chaotic. I'm beyond exhausted....hell I need a nap to get to exhausted. 

So with that being said, it' hard to get on here cause I end up falling asleep as soon as I turn the computer on! 

Anyway, recently I've really been evaluating the people I've surrounded myself with. I have some truly amazing people in my life and some that I SHOULD be without. You ever feel like someone can call YOU a friend but you'd never call them one? I find myself in that position too many times. I'm always there for people but when it comes time for them to be there for me, It's like "U got me?...oh u dont?....oh ok..." lol. It sucks but it's true. So I've taken some time to do me and be alone. Time well spent believe me..in that time I was able to really convey to some people how I felt about the status of our friendship and I think it has allowed us to kinda rectify the situation and work on things. 

But more importantly, with all the evaluating I've done...the other night I did something I NEVER in my life dreamed I'd do. Said words I never thought would come out my mouth. The other night I told my ex that I felt like it was best that he and I made a permanent exit from each others lives. Things have gotten too complicated and confusing with us. It's very inconsistent and I just can't take it anymore. It's not healthy for me. Sometimes he's there..other times he's gone for months. I refuse to just deal with it. We've been doing this for 5-6 years and I just feel like it's time it comes to an end. It sucks because so many people were kinda rooting for us. Thinking and hoping that we'd get back together. And maybe that was the problem cause so did I. I still had that hope and everytime he'd come around my hopes would go up and he'd disappear again. We'd actually recently discussed getting back together shockingly enough. Had it planned out...talked about when the time would be best etc. But once again..the inconsistency just proved to be too much for me. 

5 years of being together...trying to be friends...back to trying to be together again...to me saying get out my life? It brought me to this very common question....Can your ex ever REALLY be your friend?

And I mean JUST your friend.

I don't think so. Why? Cause the two of you will always have certain expectations from each other. You'll always require more from each other. I don't know. I've only been in 2 serious committed relationships. One of which is the one I just ended..the other is one in which the guy became my best friend. He's actually like a brother. HOWEVER, I stick by the theory that he'll never JUST be a friend. Not to me anyway. I can't speak for him because I don't think he'd ever tell me if he felt anything outside of a friendship. But I know as far as I'm concerned, I'm gonna always expect more from him. Expect him to treat me differently that other guys. I'll never be okay with him dating someone else, I'll never be okay with listening to him talk about other guys. I'll tolerate but it'll always bother me.

And on top of that, how do you break out of the familiarity of doing the things you used to do? I mean he's my best friend....so I never really think of us getting back together but it's hard being around him sometime because I might still wanna hold his hand or kinda lay on him or things like that because for so long that's what I was used to. We weren't together for an extensive period of time but even after we broke up that was still something we shared. It was more of a comfort thing. I became accustomed to that comfort, to receiving that affection from him and to not have it when I want it, upsets me. It shouldn't. But it does. Lol, it's funny cause I caught myself the other day. We went to the movies and I wasn't even really paying him any attention but I think his arm or something ended up being on top of mine and I almost went to grab his hand but I pictured him looking at me like "WTF?" and I was llike whoaaa!! NOPE!! LOL! (I have a extreme fear of rejection!) 

It's just odd. I just feel like your ex's are your ex's for a reason. Trying to make it anything past that is destined for complication and confusion. So my friends might ask "why don't you talk to _____" and i'll be like "for what?"  if he's moved on with his life and i've done the same WHAT DO WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT? 

I have enough confusion in my life. lol. 

I do think removing this other guy from my life is gonna be harder than I've ever imagined. It's one thing to say it...to actually voice it and mean it in my mind but to actually do it is a totally different story. What happens when he calls? When he emails? When he comes to visit this weekend....

What happens then? See....confusion! 

VIDEO PREMIERE: "Yo Side Of The Bed"

Check out Trey Songz latest video for the track "Yo Side of The Bed". It features Keri Hilson. It's a nice video. I like seeing a more emotional side of Trey verses the sexual side of him. 

Keri looks gorgeous as usual and the video is just really cute so check it out! 

VIDEO PREMIERE: Chris Brown- "No Bullshit" & "Deuces"

So we know Chris Brown & Tyga been working together alot lately and released their "Fan of a Fan" mixtape this week. I was gonna do a post about it, but I havent even listened to it yet and after they came out with their first single from it, I didn't see the point in rushing to since I hated the first track.

But all day I been hearing about the release of these two new videos that they released...needless to say I was uninterested...that is, until I got a message saying it was a must that I go look at this one video. But i'll get to that in a minute...for the time being, check out the video for the song  "Deuces". I like the song, it talks about pretty much saying "i'm out" to that person who's on the bullshit. 

Okay so check it out...

Video Debut Chris Brown ft. Tyga & Kevin McCall – ‘DEUCES’ from Gloob Marketing on Vimeo.

NOW....now is what you REALLY need to see. This is what me and my crew have been waiting for for YEARS! This video by Chris Brown "No Bullshit" is......soooo.....orgasmic? And i think that's putting it lightly. When Trey came out and got all grown and sexy, my whole team was like "When Chris finally comes out and does it, it's gonna be OVER!"....well hello! He's kissing and sucking and....licking?  The conversations I'm having RIGHT NOW over this video are too much! People are going in and I can NOT wait to hear what you guys have to say....







Chris Brown - No Bullshit from Terrell Johnson on Vimeo.

MMMMMM CHRIS!! YUM!

Download the "Fan of a Fan" Mixtape by Chris Brown & Tyga

Break-Up Season....

So it's officially Spring/Summer time and yall know what that means! 

It's time for fellas to start acting out and ladies to start dressing less. 

Which means what? An extreme decrease in the amount of monogamous relationships! 

I know it's bad to think that way..but it's the truth! I've already had like 4 of my friends tell me that their relationship recently came to end. And while I can't really say that Spring time was the cause of the demise of their partnerships, can we really say it's not the cause of so many others? ....didn't think so

But regardless of why it is, THIS is the time where most couples fail....so this is the time where I spend most of my time listening to friends who are heartbroken or reading status updates and tweets from people who wanna say "i miss him..." or "I still love you..." or something to that effect. 

And this might seem sooooo horrible, but I get BEYOND annoyed by that! Not because they're doing it, but because it lasts FOREVER! At what point do get the hell up and begin to move on? 

Now I recently went through a "break-up" so to speak...and I didn't even tell anyone about it. It was just over. One of my friends called me today actually and was like "how's ____? where's he at?" .....to which I responded "Hell if I know!"  I'm not one for the sitting around and moping and being depressed and crying...I don't have time for that shit. I got 3 papers to write and someones deposit to make! I'm not about to be wasting my time crying over no man! I GOT SHIT TO DO! 

Now everyone who knows me knows when I'm giving myself to someone, I go all in ...no need in half stepping and playing games. So all my friends always ask me how it's so easy for me to just move on...so let me try to break it down for yall...

I've only had...2 (i think) heartbreaks in my life. The first one was with a dude named Brian, I was 15. He was my first love, my first real relationship etc. When he and I broke up, I thought the world was over. I cried, I didn't wanna talk to anyone or be around anyone...it was so serious to me that I actually moved out of my mom's house and moved in with my father so I could just get away from everyone. No one knew where I was but my family...and Brian of course (I wanted to work things out...)...shit's crazy  right? Totally relocated for like 3 or 4 months....I did the whole I'm gonna stay in bed and mope and cry all day thing. Then one day I was like No. I was just tired of it all. Tired of looking like hell while this nigga was out doing his own thing! So from that day on, I promised myself I would NEVER allow myself to get like that again. No man is worth it. 

So from that point on...I haven't. Every dude that's come and gone..it's just kinda been like...oh well. Don't get me wrong, some of them hurt more than others, but I've always had the mentality that I had to keep it movin...there was no time to waste being sad and sitting by the phone waiting for him to call when he usually wasn't going to. 

The second "heartbreak" was Avery. OMG! He was probably the closest thing I'd come to being in a REAL relationship since Brian. Me and Brian broke up in 05..me and Avery didn't meet until 08-09..so it had a been a while. (Just cause I wasn't crying, doesnt mean I wasn't still hurting!  LOL) Putting all my cards on the table, Avery's the dude I told yall about before when I said I kinda wished I would have done things differently and hoped we could fix it etc. Anyway, that situation was great..until it wasn't. We were just at different points in life...wanted different things at the time. So when it ended, I was crushed and ALMOST went back to the crying/depressed shit. 

Almost...but I didn't. Why? Because I have to much to live for and I have too many people who love me and want to see me happy. The key to getting through a break up without all the tears and pain is to have the best support system you can have. I have a great group of friends who will not allow me to be sad or angry. Anytime I'm around them I have to smile and laugh. I don't have an option! I go to them for advice and they listen. When I'm trippin..they tell me! That's all I need. When you feel like you'll never smile or laugh again if you have good friends...that'll never be an option for you. 

I remember talking to one of my best friends about the last guy and kinda being upset about it and she was like "Enjoy him while he's there...if he's there 3 or 4 weeks down the line that's great but if he's not..someone else will be and you WILL be okay but you can't let one heartbreak break you...", I think I'll live with those words forever. Love for others is strong and amazing but love for yourself should be infinite and no one should be able to take away your happiness even for a second because they chose to walk out your life....

When me and Avery were over, after about 3 weeks and 7 extra pounds (it was me and my Chips O Hoy!) I went to my mother totally upset about it and confused as hell about what to do or how I should feel....she quoted somebody and was like "If someone comes and pushes you down, that's their fault..but if they come back 3 weeks later and you're STILL down on that floor, who's fault is that?" 

Think about it.....