But You're Just Like Him....

Have you ever been in a relationship where the person reminds you so much of a love in the past but not in a good way?

I've found myself in that situation. They are just so damn similar and it drives me crazy. Like the guy I'm dealing with now is a great dude and I'm so aware that  he's not my ex but I still see him doing things that my ex did and it truly stops me from really opening up to him and trusting him like I could and should.

For example, my ex and I used to really only talk late at night and sometimes we didn't even talk at all. That's how it is with this guy. Some days we'll go all day without hearing from each other. And I find myself saying "He used to do that same shit..." or, the fact that he has a really care free type of personality so when I bring up things, he doesn't really see "the big deal"...once again "He used to say that same shit....".

Typically, similarities between guys wouldn't bother me, but because my ex and I went through such a emotional rollercoaster which led to me finding out he had been dealing with another guy, I find myself wondering if they are so much alike, is he doing the same things too? Is the reason we might not talk all day because you're busy or because you're talking to that other guy all day? Or, do you really not understand where I'm coming from or are you just dismissing it because you don't care?

I hate comparing the two because it's not fair to him. Especially if there's no validity to what I'm assuming. He hasn't given me any reason to not trust him, if anything I've given him reason to not trust me. Which is also one of my concerns. I messed up in the past and I feel like since then he's been so closed off and it's becoming harder and harder for us to move forward. That's my fault, I know. And I think, "How do I have the nerve to wanna leave and say I'm fed up when had I not done what I did, we wouldn't be here?", and it's not that I want to leave. We're so different but every time we part ways something brings us back together. So no, I don't want to leave. I want this to work. But the odds are against us. That's just the facts. I mean, there's a pretty long distance between us (also like the other dude, might I add...) and the fact that we're just soooo different. We think differently, we act differently...we're different. But I believe differences in people are just ways to learn from each other.

I just gotta find a way to put those insecurities away and give him the fair chance he deserves and hope that he'll do the same in spite of events taken place in the past...start new? That's so much easier said than done......

VIDEO PREMIERE: Amerie ft. Fabolous - "More Than Love"

Just checked out the new video for Amerie's third single off the In Love & War album, "More Than Love". I LOVE it! It reminds me of the "Talkin To Me" video for some reason. It's a great video and I think this was actually a good choice for her in terms of which single she released because although I have grown to love the album there aren't really many that would do well on radio but I could see this one gaining play.

Check out the video and let me know what ya think!

SPOTLIGHT: Steph Jones- "Little Drummer Boy"

Okay any and everyone knows how much I love Steph Jones! I've been talking to all my friends about him since he was with DTP years ago. Since then, Steph has stepped out on his own and gone on work on some amazing projects including his recent lifetape "Gravity" which I did a review on. Anyone who has heard it knows this guy is more than just the finest man on earth. His voice is great and his music is the epitome of feel good music.

Today, Steph released his video for his latest song "Little Drummer Boy" which everyone knows is a holiday classic. Steph puts his Mo City swag on it and takes the song to a whole different level. The video features cameos from the beautiful and amazingly talented Jordin Sparks as well as blogger B.Scott. (Who's a love muffin? I know I am! Double Kisses! Haha, had to do it!)

According to Steph, the video symbolizes more than just Christmas but uniting different groups of people to better society.

"When me, Jordin, and B. Scott were marching with those drums I imagined us being on the front line in a war and it was my way of saying it doesn’t matter if you are man, women, gay or straight – we should all be able to come together and fight for a certain cause no matter who you are.. And once we truly figure that out then that’s when we grow as a people."

Sexy and socially aware! Gotta love it! 

Check out the video and be sure to follow Steph on Twitter! 

NEW MUSIC: KeKe Wyatt- "Who Knew?"

Alright, yesterday I told you guys that singer KeKe Wyatt would be releasing her 2nd album "Who Knew?" in February. Well today, she premiered the single by the same name on her Myspace. It's a great song! It's actually classic KeKe. If you're a fan you know what I mean. If not, just check out the song and you'll get the picture. I'll post a download link when I find a better quality version. Until then...

SPOTLIGHT: "The Back Up Plan"

It seems like Ms. Lopez is REALLY back! With the upcoming release of her new album, it looks like Jennifer Lopez is trying to top both the record charts and the movie charts once again! This April the release of "The Break Up Plan" will bring Jennifer back into the romantic comedy field which she DOMINATES!

The film stars Lopez as Zoe, who for which seems like a lifetime has been searching for her soul mate. She is ready to settle down and start a family but without a husband, how do you start a family? Impossible. Not according to Zoe. She is determined to be a mother and is resorting to any and every alternative possible. Deciding not to let lack of love hinder of chances of having a child, she makes the appointment be artificially inseminated.

On the day of insemination, she meets Stan and so quickly she realizes that this man may be the man of her dreams. Just one problem. How do you tell a man you've just met that you got pregnant the day you met him? So with that being said, Zoe goes through all types of hilarious ways to hide the pregnancy until she can't anymore when Stan tells her he loves her. After Stan finds out the news, he decides he's going to stick with Zoe and help her with this baby. The film shows both Zoe and Stan try to prepare for this baby while building a relationship.

Will it work?

Check out the movie to find  out on April 16th, 2010

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The Return Of KeKe Wyatt!

After several push backs and controversial set backs, songstress KeKe Wyatt has returned! It's been 8 years since the release of KeKe's first album "Soul Sista"  and fans have been anxiously waiting for a follow up and after getting our hopes many times, only to be let down, it seems as though 2010 may give us what we've all been waiting for!

KeKe announced this week that her sophmore album, titled Who Knew?,will be released on February 23rd through her new label Shanachie Records (home of soul artist Leela James).

"We are extremely excited to be bringing out KeKe's new music" says label head of A&R, Randall Grass, "She is one of the outstanding singers of her generation and is recognized as a true singer". And that she is!

Stepping into the spotlight at the age of 15 with Avant on the song "My First Love" and later on her own hit single "Nothing In This World", Wyatt was on the verge of really making her mark on the music world. However, controversy struck when KeKe and her husband and the time were involved in a domestic dispute and she was arrested for allegedly stabbing her husband. KeKe recently spoke on her marriage and divorce.  "Those 10 years are over. They're over." she says to Euerweb's Lee Baily. "You go through so much as a woman and you can't take too much of the hands on type of thing. I refuse to do it anymore and so I'm done.."

After failed attempts with two different labels (Cash Money 2004-2006, TVT 2006-2008), KeKe is sure that this year will be the year for her and fans are overly excited.

"Thanks for the overwhelming reaction to the announcement of my new project! Can't wait to share more!" KeKe posted this on her Myspace today. She is currently promoting her holiday single, a remake of Rachelle Ferrell's "Peace On Earth". Check the song out as well as some of KeKe's best work below! And be sure to look out for KeKe's new single and video "Who Knew?"

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This Really Wasn't Supposed To Happen This Way!

Alright, so a friend and I were having a conversation tonight that really had me intrigued. We were discussing how in most cases you can date someone and when it's over...it's over. No broken hearts...no hurt feelings...nothing It's just a wrap! BUT, then there are those who are not so easy to shake. Those who if you're honest with yourself, you really don't want to shake. You know what I mean! The ones who you keep around and maintain friendships with because either:

 A) You would prefer have them around as friend than not at all

B) You're waiting for that day when they'll have this epiphany and say "I miss you and wanna be with you!"

But you know option B isn't likely to happen so you'll build a friendship and it'll be genuine but because you still have feelings there, you'll find ways to have more intimate moments with them. Late night deep conversation, lingering hugs, leaning on them and the occasional holding of hands (but as buddies!). All those things remind you of how things were before and you love it! BUT...what happens when all those things that are cool for the moment become not so cool when he/she starts seeing someone else? Now they are having those late night conversations with them and they are getting lingering hugs AND kisses and instead of just  leaning on them they get to hold them.

What do you do?

How do you deal with that?

Do you stay away and distance yourself or do you maintain your friend role? Because in your mind you are thinking "What the hell?! It wasn't supposed to happen this way!"

It now becomes complicated because if you distance yourself, they probably won't notice too much because they are so focused on this other person and it leaves you feeling sad and neglected but who can you blame but yourself? And if you play the friend role, you REALLY have to be a friend, which can end up sucking more than distancing yourself. Why? Because you don't REALLY wanna know whats going on in their relationship. You don't REALLY wanna be the one they come to for advice about their partner. You don't REALLY wanna know about the mind blowing sex or how ideal and perfect their partner is. All you wanna hear is "I miss you and I wanna be with you!"...but once again....probably won't happen.

So how do you deal?

Which road would you choose?

Do you let it go or do you be a friend?

Or...do you do what you gotta do to get back the one who you know should really be with YOU....?

You Kinda SUCK....So Why Do I Want You?

Know your worth...

Don't sell yourself short...

Never settle for less than the best...

All those generic quotes we hear everyday. There's always someone telling you how much you're worth and how you deserve this and that but why is it so hard for you to believe it yourself? And even if you do believe it, why is it so hard to use that knowledge when we're in relationships?

Most people allow themselves to get so deep into relationships or the thought of being in love that they will tolerate a bunch of nonsense and inevitably downplay their own worth. I've done it. On many occasions. I won't even lie. There was a situation recently in which I was so into this dude that even though I wasn't getting a small fraction of what I wanted, needed, and DESERVED. I allowed myself to stay in that situation because of the possibility of being "loved". I was one of those people that swore I knew my worth and was confident and what I brought to the table. You STILL can't tell me another dude is capable of holding their place in a relationship like i can. However, I didn't think of that when I was dealing with this guy. I didn't think of how much more I could have been getting from someone else who would truly appreciate all that I bring forth and would respect me and treat me they way I deserve to be treated.

It baffles me. I don't understand how that happens at all. But I'm not shocked at how common it is. I see it everyday with friends of mine. Dealing with people who treat them like mere afterthoughts even though they (my friends) are giving their all to build a relationship. Why are we so willing to be someone's option...someones "Oh yeah...let me call them". Why do we settle for "Oh wassup..." when we could be getting "Hey Baby..." ?

And why is it so hard to move on from those people? Anyone who is honest with themselves and has been in that situation knows that its so hard to totally forget about someone who treated you like shit as opposed to someone who treated you well. Why?

It really took me reevaluating the situation before I was able to let it go. I had to step out and be like "I do all this to show you how much I wanna be with you and I get less than your bare minimum?"  How stupid does that sound?

So when I think about all those quotes, as corny as they sound, they are so true. It's so important to really have a clear understanding of your self-worth. As much as some people might want to find love, there are better ways to go about it than to tolerate someone who will not treat you as you are perfectly aware that you deserve.  Know exactly what you want and do not want. If you go into a situation, be honest about what you are looking for. If it's a relationship...Say That. If it's a friend...Say That. If it's sex...Say That. Be honest with them and allow them to be honest with you. If you wanna be in love and they say they don't. You can't try to change their mind, so politely decline the offer to further anything between you two. No need in wasting anyone's time or putting yourself in a position to end up disappointed. But be honest...say what you want and mean what you say. If you say you want a friend, don't try to sleep with that person who claims they want it to. (That's not friendship!)  If you say you want a relationship, then act like it! (That wishy washy stuff is NOT cute!)

What do you guys think?

New Music: Karina- "Perfectly Different"

Many people are familiar with Karina from her debut single "16 @ War" which was released last year. Her album "First Love" was nominated for Best R&B Album at last year's Grammy Awards. Karina has been working hard on her follow up album and recently she released her first single title "Perfectly Different". Some of you may have heard it, but if you haven't it's truly a amazing track and will make you love this girl. Check it out! 

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Chris Brown Concert!

So the other night was the concert that I've been waiting for months to see! Chris Brown, live in Philly!

When I tell you it was the most amazing thing I've ever seen in life, it's truly an understatement. It's one thing to  be mesmerized by him on television, watching his performances but to actually see it up close and personal is a completely different experience.

The show started with performances by Meek Mills (I still don't know who he is...so I kinda just stood there the whole time....) and The New Boyz, who actually also gave a great show! I was really surprised by that, their performances actually made me wanna go buy their album "Skinny Jeans and a Mic".

Around 9:20, Chris took the stage. He opened the show with the first single off his "Graffiti" album, "I Can Transform Ya", and it was nothing short of amazing. I've never seen a crowd so hyped before!

Being it was the "Fan Appreciation Tour", Chris performed alot of his older material. Songs like "Ya Man Ain't Me", "Just Fine", "Wall To Wall" along with alot of his other fan favorites. His energy was just crazy and his vocals were amazing. I actually never really realized how much of a vocalist he really is!

Check out some of the pics and videos I took that night!

VIDEO PREMIERE: Mariah Carey- "H.A.T.E.U."

Earlier this evening Mariah Carey released the new video for her latest single "H.A.T.E.U" off the "Memoirs of a Imperfect Angel" album....check it out!

ALBUM REVIEW: Chris Brown - "Graffiti"

So today Chris Brown released his third LP "Graffiti" and as big of a fan as I am of Chris, I am honestly disappointed. After being so hyped and going as far as to pre-order the album I was shocked when I was anticipating it's end!

I was reading reviews all day and people were slamming him about the slow tracks where he was "whining" and asking for forgiveness but went to praise him about his uptempo songs saying they would be great in the clubs. I beg to differ! The ballads and mid-tempos were actually the only appealing tracks. It seemed like Chris was doing too much this time around. Most of his uptempo tracks were kinda "Forever" but in a bad way....

But lets get into it. The stand out tracks that I actually did enjoy included "Lucky Girl" where he makes alot references to his relationship with Rihanna. Some subtle, some quite direct. Outside of the song giving you insight on alot of the allegations that were made in regards to the situation, it's actually just a pretty hot track!

"Lucky Me" and  "Fallin Down" are also great tracks. They show a more sensitive and vulnerable side of Chris. They are really personal tracks and show Chris' vocal maturity. That is actually one thing I will say I enjoyed about this album. You see just how much growth there is vocally between this album and the last album "Exclusive".

Now...lets REALLY get to it. This song "What I Do"....What?! It's horrible. I hate it. And "Pass Out" with that girl Eva Simons. Now am I the only one who noticed that he ran out and did a track with the chick everyone says Rihanna rips off? If I ever heard either one of these songs at a party or in a club I'd be the first person out the door.

Overall, I think Chris really missed the mark with this album. Compared to his previous work, this album was just too all over the place! I'm still a fan though! I support him and I wish him the best but this album didn't do it for me!