This Really Wasn't Supposed To Happen This Way!

Alright, so a friend and I were having a conversation tonight that really had me intrigued. We were discussing how in most cases you can date someone and when it's over...it's over. No broken hearts...no hurt feelings...nothing It's just a wrap! BUT, then there are those who are not so easy to shake. Those who if you're honest with yourself, you really don't want to shake. You know what I mean! The ones who you keep around and maintain friendships with because either:

 A) You would prefer have them around as friend than not at all

B) You're waiting for that day when they'll have this epiphany and say "I miss you and wanna be with you!"

But you know option B isn't likely to happen so you'll build a friendship and it'll be genuine but because you still have feelings there, you'll find ways to have more intimate moments with them. Late night deep conversation, lingering hugs, leaning on them and the occasional holding of hands (but as buddies!). All those things remind you of how things were before and you love it! BUT...what happens when all those things that are cool for the moment become not so cool when he/she starts seeing someone else? Now they are having those late night conversations with them and they are getting lingering hugs AND kisses and instead of just  leaning on them they get to hold them.

What do you do?

How do you deal with that?

Do you stay away and distance yourself or do you maintain your friend role? Because in your mind you are thinking "What the hell?! It wasn't supposed to happen this way!"

It now becomes complicated because if you distance yourself, they probably won't notice too much because they are so focused on this other person and it leaves you feeling sad and neglected but who can you blame but yourself? And if you play the friend role, you REALLY have to be a friend, which can end up sucking more than distancing yourself. Why? Because you don't REALLY wanna know whats going on in their relationship. You don't REALLY wanna be the one they come to for advice about their partner. You don't REALLY wanna know about the mind blowing sex or how ideal and perfect their partner is. All you wanna hear is "I miss you and I wanna be with you!"...but once again....probably won't happen.

So how do you deal?

Which road would you choose?

Do you let it go or do you be a friend?

Or...do you do what you gotta do to get back the one who you know should really be with YOU....?